The
answer is a complicated one, but here’s what we do know: High achievers
think differently. They act differently. They do things differently.
To find your dream and start changing your life, the first step is to take the time to answer the following questions.
What beliefs do you carry that may be holding you back?
It
takes guts to call yourself out and question beliefs that just don’t
seem right. We’re all ingrained with a set of learned behaviors that may
be holding us back. It’s okay to question them and seek a better way. That’s a true sign of growth.
If you're angry, it's OK to show that you're angry.
Intimate relationships bring up intense feelings. Conflict with a
partner can feel destabilizing, and make it difficult to be articulate
and openly expressive. Many people try to avoid conflict through a
variety of maneuvers—pretending to always agree, being aggressively
stubborn so the other person is too afraid to speak up, or avoiding
topics that could bring up disagreement.
There are always issues in romantic relationships that really get us going. These often relate to our childhood
experiences with important others—experiences that were painful, and
the emotions of which are stirred up when a similar situation occurs
again.
Having someone recognize your deepest fears and offer reassurance can
be extremely reparative. Using words to state what you believe the
other person is saying can relieve their fear of being dismissed, left alone, or not taken seriously.
Being able to fight productively often brings a couple closer and
strengthens their relationship; here are six ways to do this.
I never used to ask these hit-harder-than-Tyson questions of myself. Or
perhaps more accurately I’d occasionally ask them or they’d pop,
unwanted, into my head, but I’d always quickly remove them from
consciousness. I didn’t want to “go there”. Because I was scared.
Intuitively, I knew these were important questions. Questions that would
take me forward and jolt me outside my current reality. But I was
comfortable drifting along the peripheries of my potential, even if I
wasn’t totally happy, so why would I want to risk that?
But… I had to
risk it. I’d always wanted more than “normal”; better than “average”. I
wanted to be successful. I really did. And these questions must’ve been
popping into my head for a reason, with the most logical explanation
being that I wanted an answer to them. When I really thought about it, I
was desperate for an answer to these kinds of questions. I knew they’d
set me free, because that’s what being honest does. You no longer hide
from yourself. It can be a little painful at first, but what’s more
painful: asking these questions of yourself now, or never asking them
and risking never living the life you’ve always wanted to?
Do
you know your life purpose? Many people earn a decent living, but would
define success as much more than money. For many it is also about
happiness, positive relationships and the ability to contribute to
something you care about.
Here are 7 questions you should ask yourself if you are trying to discover your life purpose.
Steve
Jobs, whom most of us know for his work at the helm of Apple, looked in
the mirror every day of his working life and asked himself one
question: “If today were the last day of your life, would you want to be
doing what you’re doing?” Most of the time, his answer came back as a
resounding yes, but for the average person, it probably varies. So
passionate about his work was Jobs that he worked right up until the day
before his death, despite suffering from pancreatic cancer.
Minda Zetlin discusses
the benefits of asking ourselves this question each day in terms of how
it can help us to discover whether or not we’re fulfilling our full
potential and working in the careers we love. Asking this question can
help us to cultivate a sense of purpose in our personal lives as well as
our professional lives. Here are 6 questions that Steve Jobs’s daily
exercise can challenge us to ask ourselves.
This test was created by Pip Wilson, a famous British psychologist.
It was made for elementary school students to see how well they did
in their first three years of studies, but later on it turned out
to be suitable for adults, too. The test helps determine your real and
desirable emotional state and even realize what your social status is,
too, to some extent.
Our Bright Side team has already taken the test, and some of us were quite surprised by the results. See what you think.
