LOVEbombing

Fiataloknak, és lélekben fiataloknak:

A szerelembombázás egy manipulációs taktika, amelynek során valaki a kapcsolat kezdetén túlzott szeretettel, figyelemmel és nagy gesztusokkal árasztja el a másik személyt, hogy gyors, intenzív érzelmi kötődést alakítson ki és függőséget teremtsen. Bár ez eleinte hízelgőnek tűnik, valójában az érzelmi bántalmazás vészjelzése, mert a „szerelmi bombázó” ezt a kialakított kötődést később arra használja, hogy irányítsa, leértékelje vagy manipulálja az áldozatot, ami megnehezíti számára, hogy felismerje a bántalmazást és megőrizze határait. 

Love bombing is a manipulation tactic where someone overwhelms another person with excessive affection, attention, and grand gestures early in a relationship to build a quick, intense emotional bond and create dependence. While it feels flattering at first, it's a red flag for emotional abuse because the "love bomber" uses this created bond to later control, devalue, or manipulate the target, making it harder for them to recognize the abuse and maintain their boundaries. 

What love bombing looks like:

• Excessive Affection & Compliments: 

  Over-the-top praise and romantic declarations, like saying "I love you" very early on. 
Constant Communication: 
Wanting to be in touch constantly or needing to spend all their time together. 
Grand Gestures: 
Lavish gifts, extravagant dates, or making plans for the future (moving in, marriage) much too soon. 
Future-Faking: 
Talking about how the relationship is "predestined" or that you're "the one," skipping to the "real" relationship phase. 
Pressure to Commit: 
Pushing to make the relationship "official" or to move forward at a rapid, overwhelming pace. 

Why it's a red flag:

Emotional Manipulation: 
The goal is to make the person feel incredibly special and dependent, quickly becoming the most important person in their life. 
Coercive Control: 
After the bond is formed, the love bomber can more easily control the relationship and the other person's life to meet their own desires. 
Breakdown of Boundaries: 
The intense affection makes it hard for the target to establish and maintain their own boundaries, leading them to compromise their needs. 
Grooming for Abuse: 
It's a technique to draw someone in and break down their doubts and barriers, making them more vulnerable to future devaluing, criticism, or other forms of abuse. 

What to do if you think you're being love bombed:

Trust Your Gut: If it feels like "too much too soon," that feeling is valid. 
Slow Down the Relationship: Take time to establish your own boundaries and a healthy pace. 
Reconnect with Your Support System: Lean on friends, family, and community to avoid becoming isolated and to maintain a strong sense of self. 
Seek Professional Help: A therapist or counselor can provide an objective perspective and help you navigate the situation and your own patterns. 

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