5 Common Mental Errors That Sway You From Making Good Decisions

By James Clear    |    Behavioral Psychology, Decision Making, Self-Awareness

I like to think of myself as a rational person, but I’m not one. The good news is it’s not just me — or you. We are all irrational.
For a long time, researchers and economists believed that humans made logical, well-considered decisions. In recent decades, however, researchers have uncovered a wide range of mental errors that derail our thinking. Sometimes we make logical decisions, but there are many times when we make emotional, irrational, and confusing choices.
Psychologists and behavioral researchers love to geek out about these different mental mistakes. There are dozens of them and they all have fancy names like “mere exposure effect” or “narrative fallacy.” But I don’t want to get bogged down in the scientific jargon today. Instead, let’s talk about the mental errors that show up most frequently in our lives and break them down in easy-to-understand language.
Here are five common mental errors that sway you from making good decisions.

1. Survivorship Bias.

Which country in the world best fits your personality

Our world is big and beautiful, and there’s absolutely no reason why you should live and die in the same corner of it where you were born. Maybe there’s a place out there which is far more suitable for you than your current home?

Bright Side has found a way to help you find out with this great little test.

Pack your bags!

http://brightside.me/article/take-this-quick-test-to-find-out-which-country-in-the-world-best-fits-your-personality-90355/

France

You are a romantic who enjoys strolling through cobblestone streets and markets. You are inspired by art and architecture, and thrive being surrounded by other artists and intellectuals. You enjoy the bustle of a city, but also love spending time in the warm countryside, sitting at a cafe, and having a glass of wine or coffee. Your soul is nourished by being in nature, and by having deep meaningful conversation about love, art, and the meaning of life.

• Inspiration.     Creativity.     Wonder.

Never waste your time and energy on those who don't care about you

Andrey Kurpatov, a psychotherapist, writer, and columnist for many publications, defined the golden rules of his life. Bright Side suggests taking a closer look at them so perhaps these rules will be suitable for you, too.

• Never shift the responsibility for what’s happening in your life on others’ shoulders.
  I understand that the temptation to blame somebody else is great, but have pity on yourself. You’ll find power at the moment you internally accept that you’re the author of all your failures and the creator of all your successes.
  

• Inspiration.     Creativity.     Wonder.

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Brilliant advice on how to reset and deep clean your life

If your cup is full, you can’t pour water in it. That’s one of the governing principles of all time. It’s impossible to turn the tide of your life and to rewrite your history if you act depending on unsorted issues from your past.
Your life puzzle will continue to form same picture if you continue to use the same elements. It doesn’t matter how many times you try to mix them differently.
Use a reset to start a mindful formation of yourself and your new path.
Don’t achieve this by searching for new goals, declaring how you see yourself in five years, or by analyzing your mission and purpose. This whole process will be stuck in your old beliefs, which are the ones that take away a whole lot of your energy.
You should start by decluttering your life, both physically and mentally.
Uncontrolled hoarding leads to two things:

1. Endless repetition of your past. Your life starts to be filled with déjà vu.
2. Deceleration of life speed. It’s when you look at those who are able to do three times as much as you do and can’t wrap your mind around the fact how they manage that. Success in life and self-actualization in all spears of life is only possible at full speed.

Curiosity killed the cat - wanna, gonna, ain't

Hello?
Hello?

Hey, how you're doin'?                                                            how are you?

I'm sorry you couldn't get through
'Cause this is a message that's been recorded                           because   
Especially for you

And if you leave a name and your number
We'll get right back to you                                                                                   
You can leave a message now if you want to
When the bleeps are through

I sure wish you'd hurry home
I think I'm lost and I wanna be found                                         want to
Feels like I'm wondering round nowhere land

All I'm after is to see your sunshine smile and laughter
I feel like calling you, feel like some contact
I feel like phonin', but I can't get through                                  

Hey, how you're doin'?
I'm sorry you couldn't get through                                            not available
'Cause this is a message that's been recorded
Especially for you

And if you leave a name and a number
We'll get back right to you
You can leave a message now if you want to
When the bleeps are through

(Isn't that as well so wrong, wrong, wrong)

I'm trapped in a timelock zone
Gonna have to face this on my own                                          I'm going to
Still gonna wonder round that nowhere land

Bónusz:

gotta = have got to = have to :)
I gotta go - I have got to go - I've got to go -  mennem kell

I gotta (got to) go my own way - A saját utamat kell járnom.
ain't -  tagadószó: do not, is not, are not



How to improve your listening?

How To Be More Patient With Your Kids (OR anyone)

February 1, 2016 by Becky Mansfield

http://kidsactivitiesblog.com

You trip over a shoe in the middle of the hallway, you step on a matchbox car and you see yet another shirt lying on the floor in their room.  You try not to yell, because you are trying to be more patient with your kids.
Wait.

Didn’t you already ask them to clean their room… twice?   Yet it is still a mess?  It can be easy to lose your temper with your kids when things like this happen.  I get it.  After all… I’m a mom, too.

Yelling, arguing, angry looks … all things that happen when we lose our patience.   It isn’t the way that I want my children to remember me or the way that I want them to parent their own children one day.
Today we are talking about how to be more patient with our kids:

To put it in a nutshell - writing