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20 Brutally Honest Things Women Turning 40 Want All Women In Their 30s To Know

Communication Relationships by Wendy Redden

I will be 40 in less than a year. I would be lying if I said that turning the big 40 didn’t bother me. It seems that 40 is a number where I believe I should have finally ‘arrived’ in life, or my life should be the perfect picture of a successful wife, mother, business woman or whatever other demanding expectation I put upon myself when I was younger. My life right now is pretty good, but if I could have planned it all out or done things differently – it definitely would not look like how it actually turned out. I am a blessed mother of two children and I do have a few accomplishments under my belt but I sometimes compare my life to others and it just gets me down.

As I reflect being on this earth for almost 40 years and I rewind to when I was in my 30s, I would have definitely done a few things differently. Luckily, because of some of my past challenges in my life, I was forced to learn new tools.  Some of my past experiences forced me to do things differently which turned into a good thing eventually. Here are 20 brutally honest things women turning 40 want all women in their 30s to know.

1. Love and accept yourself – fully

I truly believe if I had accepted the good and bad parts of myself at a younger age, I would have avoided many of the wrong decisions that I made in my life. Once you know who you really are inside, you begin to accept and love yourself fully.  Once you truly love yourself from the inside, you are able to love and accept others which provides a much higher probability of maintaining healthy relationships.

Eight simple ways to avoid being manipulated

Psychological manipulation occurs when one person is used for the benefit of another. The manipulator deliberately creates an imbalance of power, and exploits the victim to serve his or her agenda.
Preston Ni, an expert in communication, offers eight simple ways to help you avoid this.

Your elusive creative genius

The author of 'Eat, Pray, Love,' Elizabeth Gilbert has thought long and hard about some big topics. Her fascinations: genius, creativity and how we get in our own way when it comes to both.

Why you should listen

Elizabeth Gilbert faced down a premidlife crisis by doing what we all secretly dream of -- running off for a year. Her travels through Italy, India and Indonesia resulted in the megabestselling and deeply beloved memoir Eat, Pray, Love, about her process of finding herself by leaving home.

She's a longtime magazine writer -- covering music and politics for Spin and GQ -- as well as a novelist and short-story writer. Her books include the story collection Pilgrims, the novel Stern Men (about lobster fishermen in Maine) and a biography of the woodsman Eustace Conway, called The Last American Man. Her work has been the basis for two movies so far (Coyote Ugly, based on her own tale of working at the famously raunchy bar in New York City), and Eat, Pray, Love, with the part of Gilbert played by Julia Roberts. Not bad for a year off.
In 2010, Elizabeth published Committed, a memoir exploring her ambivalent feelings about the institution of marriage. And her 2013 novel, The Signature of All Things, is "a sprawling tale of 19th century botanical exploration."
Gilbert also owns and runs the import shop Two Buttons in Frenchtown, New Jersey.

What others say

“Gilbert is irreverent, hilarious, zestful, courageous, intelligent, and in masterful command of her sparkling prose.” — Booklist

Elizabeth Gilbert’s TED talks

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Your elusive creative genius

Posted Feb 2009

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Success, failure and the drive to keep creating 

 

The film: Ízek, imák, szerelmek: http://gloria.tv/media/5FKUEoVa5Ry 

Can your child bounce back from failure?

Building resilience in kids. Photo: Getty

Do you consider yourself to be resilient? Can you bounce back from failure, dust yourself off and power on? The good news is that research shows resilience can be learned, and children are learning how to cope with failure from the adults in their life, both at home and at school.
In its simplest form, resilience describes something that reverts to its original state after it has been bent or stretched – and we're not talking about yoga. Being resilient doesn't mean that you don't experience hardship or feel stressed, it just means that you are able to recover.

How can you tell if someone is lying to you?

A lot of people will look to the left or right and not look right at you. Also, they might have facial twitches. They might also not look you in the eyes. May go red in the face. May move from foot to foot or even go into another room to avoid answering. Some will question you about something else trying to throw you off track.

Will not look you in the eyes or the eyes will become blank or dart side to side. May go red in the face. May move from foot to foot or even go into another room to avoid answering. Some will question you about something else trying to throw you off track.  Answer After taking hundreds of depositions and preparing clients for trial testimony, the easiest way to tell when someone is lying is how much they elaborate when answering simple questions. For example, when a "yes" or "no" is sufficient, the person will keep going, and going, and going.

The more a person adds to an explanation or answer the more you can be certain they are being less than truthful and/or just plain "full of it".